The Key to a Great Relationship

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April 20, 2013 by rebeccaannemarshall

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ooooh look at the supply of chips up there on top of the cupboard, should be good for at least one night!

The other day my best-friend-forever posted a status on Face book with a question. A question that was more or less a conversation piece, where it was invited of others to share their opinions. Their opinions being on what people believed to be the key to a successful relationship! I, of course, jumped on it like… well like myself on a big fat bag of chips… and weighed in with all my, obviously, wonderful advice and opinions.

I thought today’s post would be a great opportunity to use this very same topic of conversation.

I will say in all seriousness, that all relationships are different.

“Different?” You say?

“They are not ALL the same?” You say?

No. They are not. It may come as a shock to some of you, but relationships differ for the pure fact that every person is a different person. I know it is a lot to take in. So one thing that may work miracles for one couple, may do diddly-squat for another.

Having said that, I think there was a general consensus on a few key ingredients that seem to be the average opinion of most.

Here is a break down, not word for word, of most things us status commentators agreed on… which was like 4 people… including myself, so YOU KNOW this advice is the good stuff.

-Honesty and communication. This one should come as no surprise in my opinion. To say otherwise would be to believe that a successful relationship can be built on a foundation of lies, mortared together with secrets. We all know how leaky secrets can be and certainly we all know how easily lies can crumble.

-Never go to bed angry.

-Show each other you love them everyday.

541139_10152686463315290_1590914328_n-Make time for each other everyday AS WELL as time for yourself (space is a good thing).

-Trust. Not only in the other person but, in a sense, in yourself as well. Not to say necessarily that you dis-trust yourself. But an example given was that, if having left one horrible and untrustworthy relationship, you begin another relationship with that same left over general feeling of distrust, that new relationship wont stand a chance.

-Learning how to compromise. Knowing that you are two different people (shocking) and chances are you are not always going to agree with one another. You need to learn the art of biting your tongue and agree to disagree. Otherwise an argument about which girl guide cookie is the best kind could potentially end in a verbal fist fight.

-Learning how to make a mean cheese burger. OK so maybe this is not the general opinion to the public but it seemed an important one in the conversations that we were having and well I like cheese burgers… so I agree.

Now I think most can agree that these are fairly common when it comes to advice given to people about how to have a successful relationship, however tried and true. There is more, however, that I feel (as someone who has been with the same person for a whopping 6 whole years!) should also be listed as key. A Dissocial Mom list of advice if you will.

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Tip! Take a ridiculous amount of pictures of each other and bug them about the ones that turned out bad and/or they are making a funny face! It`s great fun!

-Make fun of each other, lots. Not only is it fun for you but, so long as your significant other has a good sense of humor, it is also fun for them. Seriously though laughing together, even at the expense of each other, can bring a closeness sometimes even better then a good snuggle.

-Pick on each other. In good nature of course. Find that thing that drives them nuts. And do it with a smile on your face. OK this is one of those things that fits in the might-work-some-one-but-not-for-another category, but seriously if Jeff goes a day without deliberately constantly saying “what?” after everything I said, I would seriously think he didn’t love me anymore.

-Get annoyed with each other and admit it. Not to say look for things that annoy you and then dwell on it. What I mean is that you are human, seriously it’s true, and living with another human can often times result in learning some not so great habits they may or may not have. That brings me back to the previous tip, in which you find fun ways to do those annoying things that you would otherwise already do! Perfect! If you don’t get annoyed with each other EVER, please give me the name of your medication so that I may get my doctor to write me up a prescription for it.

-Laugh at each other when the other one does something stupid. Seriously, do it, it’s fun.

-Be demanding of each other, in a fun way of course. This particular one is sort of a mixture of picking on and annoying them.

HUSBAND! Make me breakfast!!

HUSBAND! Make me breakfast!!

Thank you.

Thank you.

-Talk to each other and/or have regular everyday conversations, in completely ridiculous accents and or tones of voice. Eh, cud ya bring me dat der bowl’a rice der eh? This also works the same if you choose to sing your sentences, badly, sing it badly.

OK so I guess if I was being serious I would sum up all that by saying that one very important key to a successful relationship is to have fun. Who say’s just because you are an adult you have to be serious about everything all the time? That is just plain boring, and once you become bored in life it is very easy to become bored in your relationship.

The BFF`s BF`s cheese burgers!!

The BFF`s BF`s cheese burgers!!

Almost as important as trust and honesty, intimacy or cheese burgers. Keeping fun in a relationship is most defiantly key. You could have all the trust in the world, tell each other everything and well *wink*wink* all the time, but with out fun and laughter, boredom could be the one thing to kill it.

What is your opinion on what you believe would be the key to having a successful relationship, silly or serious, I would love to know!!

Until next Saturday! Tata!!

Becky A.M

P.S Thank you to Zoe for the inspiration for today’s blog post! Your status was the metaphorical unclogging of my writers block πŸ™‚

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23 thoughts on “The Key to a Great Relationship

  1. Im emailing this to my husband LOL. and sharing this on my FB page. Thank you for visiting my blog πŸ™‚

  2. onecoolsoul says:

    As in all relationships people must work together to keep it fresh, fun and most important, to keep it meaningful to both parties!

  3. Comely Miss says:

    My husband and I subscribe to sarcasm with each other so much that we’ve had the status of our relationship questioned. When we were dating, a coworker of mine actually thought we broke up. We’re also brutally honest with one another which leaves nothing hidden. I like it that way, but I know several women that couldn’t take it. We’re truly best friends. πŸ™‚

  4. Great post! Very nice. I really liked it. It gave me a feel good feeling reading it. Thanks! πŸ™‚

  5. Kristy J. W. says:

    Good post! Not only did it give me some insight with my own marriage it also made me literally laugh out loud :).
    Thanks for following my blog by the way. I really appreciate it!

  6. If something that your guy is doing really, truly, consistently bothers you, don’t bottle it up and fume over it. Definitely don’t assume he should know what is wrong with you or try hinting around the issue. Tell him straight up what he’s doing wrong, why it bothers you and how it makes you feel. Don’t do it when you’re a puddle of snot and tears. He won’t hear anything you say. It’ll all flow over the invisible umbrella they sling up when we start boohooing or acting in a way they consider irrational, and he won’t comprehend much of what you said. Talk when you’re calm and can explain things clearly. If your guy is with you, he doesn’t want to upset you or hurt your feelings….or he shouldn’t. If he knows something he’s doing is causing you pain, he will try to stop. He may not admit it or say anything about it (my guy usually doesn’t, anyway), but he will try his best to stop doing something that’s really upsetting you.

    On the same topic, let the things that don’t matter slide. If you’re always acting like something is a big deal, then he’s already tuning your drama queen whiney self out and won’t know when something’s really an issue. Think about your reaction to a super whiney kid with no problems they actually need solving. Yep, that. πŸ˜‰

    Annnnyway….I really enjoyed this. The food photos made me drool. I very much agree with picking on each other, as long as it’s in good humor. We do that all the time. πŸ™‚

    • Love this advice actually! To add to it don’t be afraid of hurting their feelings by telling them they are doing something that bothers you (this is something I DO have to work on) if you let it build until it bursts, chances are what comes out of your ranting mouth is going to be more hurtful to their feelings, than if you had just mentioned it calmly the first time. Thanks for reading by the way, love your advice, and glad you enjoyed the post! πŸ˜€

      • Oh, it’s definitely better to say it when you’re calm instead of worrying about hurting their feelings. If you wait until it’s a crazed rant of bursting frustration, they’re reallllllly going to have hurt feelings!! LOL

  7. This entire post was hilarious and well worth me not working while I was supposed to be for the last couple of minutes! I agree with everything you stated and really want a cheeseburger right now:) My husband and I are best friends and his grandmother (literally before she died and also as she smoked a cigarette while hooked up to an oxygen tank;)) who was married to her husband for over 50 years (until he passed) told us that one of the keys to staying together forever was to NEVER go to bed angry at each other! We never have after 8 years and hopefully wont in the future. Post something else so I can continue to not work on this beautiful Saturday!

    • Wow, well thank you so much πŸ˜€ I am so glad you enjoyed reading it! The advice to never go to bed angry with each other was actually brought to you by the BFF who posted her face book status with the question. And I have to say I could not agree more on that one πŸ™‚

  8. zoe says:

    Glad I could help!!! I am just happy I got a shout out in your blog yippee!

  9. Mancakes says:

    I was totally enjoying this post…and then I saw breakfast..and then I saw cheeseburgers..and now all I can think about is food. Thanks for blowing my (eh-hmm) “diet”. πŸ˜‰ (You have some great advice though, too!)

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