April 20, 2013 by rebeccaannemarshall
The other day my best-friend-forever posted a status on Face book with a question. A question that was more or less a conversation piece, where it was invited of others to share their opinions. Their opinions being on what people believed to be the key to a successful relationship! I, of course, jumped on it like… well like myself on a big fat bag of chips… and weighed in with all my, obviously, wonderful advice and opinions.
I thought today’s post would be a great opportunity to use this very same topic of conversation.
I will say in all seriousness, that all relationships are different.
“Different?” You say?
“They are not ALL the same?” You say?
No. They are not. It may come as a shock to some of you, but relationships differ for the pure fact that every person is a different person. I know it is a lot to take in. So one thing that may work miracles for one couple, may do diddly-squat for another.
Having said that, I think there was a general consensus on a few key ingredients that seem to be the average opinion of most.
Here is a break down, not word for word, of most things us status commentators agreed on… which was like 4 people… including myself, so YOU KNOW this advice is the good stuff.
-Honesty and communication. This one should come as no surprise in my opinion. To say otherwise would be to believe that a successful relationship can be built on a foundation of lies, mortared together with secrets. We all know how leaky secrets can be and certainly we all know how easily lies can crumble.
-Never go to bed angry.
-Show each other you love them everyday.
-Trust. Not only in the other person but, in a sense, in yourself as well. Not to say necessarily that you dis-trust yourself. But an example given was that, if having left one horrible and untrustworthy relationship, you begin another relationship with that same left over general feeling of distrust, that new relationship wont stand a chance.
-Learning how to compromise. Knowing that you are two different people (shocking) and chances are you are not always going to agree with one another. You need to learn the art of biting your tongue and agree to disagree. Otherwise an argument about which girl guide cookie is the best kind could potentially end in a verbal fist fight.
-Learning how to make a mean cheese burger. OK so maybe this is not the general opinion to the public but it seemed an important one in the conversations that we were having and well I like cheese burgers… so I agree.
Now I think most can agree that these are fairly common when it comes to advice given to people about how to have a successful relationship, however tried and true. There is more, however, that I feel (as someone who has been with the same person for a whopping 6 whole years!) should also be listed as key. A Dissocial Mom list of advice if you will.
-Make fun of each other, lots. Not only is it fun for you but, so long as your significant other has a good sense of humor, it is also fun for them. Seriously though laughing together, even at the expense of each other, can bring a closeness sometimes even better then a good snuggle.
-Pick on each other. In good nature of course. Find that thing that drives them nuts. And do it with a smile on your face. OK this is one of those things that fits in the might-work-some-one-but-not-for-another category, but seriously if Jeff goes a day without deliberately constantly saying “what?” after everything I said, I would seriously think he didn’t love me anymore.
-Get annoyed with each other and admit it. Not to say look for things that annoy you and then dwell on it. What I mean is that you are human, seriously it’s true, and living with another human can often times result in learning some not so great habits they may or may not have. That brings me back to the previous tip, in which you find fun ways to do those annoying things that you would otherwise already do! Perfect! If you don’t get annoyed with each other EVER, please give me the name of your medication so that I may get my doctor to write me up a prescription for it.
-Laugh at each other when the other one does something stupid. Seriously, do it, it’s fun.
-Be demanding of each other, in a fun way of course. This particular one is sort of a mixture of picking on and annoying them.
-Talk to each other and/or have regular everyday conversations, in completely ridiculous accents and or tones of voice. Eh, cud ya bring me dat der bowl’a rice der eh? This also works the same if you choose to sing your sentences, badly, sing it badly.
OK so I guess if I was being serious I would sum up all that by saying that one very important key to a successful relationship is to have fun. Who say’s just because you are an adult you have to be serious about everything all the time? That is just plain boring, and once you become bored in life it is very easy to become bored in your relationship.
Almost as important as trust and honesty, intimacy or cheese burgers. Keeping fun in a relationship is most defiantly key. You could have all the trust in the world, tell each other everything and well *wink*wink* all the time, but with out fun and laughter, boredom could be the one thing to kill it.
What is your opinion on what you believe would be the key to having a successful relationship, silly or serious, I would love to know!!
Until next Saturday! Tata!!
P.S Thank you to Zoe for the inspiration for today’s blog post! Your status was the metaphorical unclogging of my writers block 🙂